Matthew 19:10 (NIV)
10 The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a
husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
The institution of marriage is under attack so much today, that even Christians often choose to simply live together. After all, at least they will not end up divorced, and there are perks to living together. A better way to understand this is to consider how being married seems to hinder poor folk. Many would lose their government assistance if they were married. Don’t be shocked by what I say. Certainly many, if not everyone reading this, knows someone in this situation. The want to get married and simply can’t afford to.
Here is another thought. If fewer couples marry, fewer will divorce, and the rate will go down. Now that is “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.”
St. Paul wrote, “ Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.” 1 Corinthians 7:1 (NIV), but immediately after that, he said, “ But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (NIV)
Therein lies the problem; sexual immorality. We are at a place in our society where sexual morality has to compete with financial security. The bible is clear on both subjects.
1 Corinthians 7:2 (NIV) 2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
Hebrews 13:4-5 (NIV) 4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. 5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."
Now what do we do? If you are in this situation, be honest and see your pastor or a believer that you are close to. Tell them you need help.
If you know someone in this situation, offer to help them to trust God and learn to depend upon Him. They need restoration, not condemnation. They may be ashamed or make excuses. Understand this is a spiritual issue, so show grace.
Two verses that might help are:
Galatians 6:1-2 (NIV) 1 Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Proverbs 17:9 (NIV) 9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
Love, Pastor Don